10 Habits of Successful Women

As I went through and prepared the content for my ECourse, Time Management for the Modern Mom, I really had to sit and think about all of the steps I have taken to get to where I am at today. How did I transition from an irresponsible teenager to a mom of 4 who owns her own business? (And when did that happen btw?). Sometimes, its really difficult for me to break down the "how" of things. Organization comes very natural to me. Its how I function. It's from being in the trenches of motherhood that helped me create healthy habits in order to survive. And it really has made me think about when we go through hard times, as humans, what comes out of it? You have heard many people talk about how their tough times made them better. And that really is true for me. But its because I have been humbled enough to accept correction from wise council. I've seen what its like to live life on my own, thinking I know everything. And it wasn't until; #1 I sought out Jesus (More like he found me) and #2 I sought out wise council - that I really started improving areas of my life.

So here we go, I have compiled 10 habits that have helped me on the road to "success". These by no means are the only ways that have helped me on this path, but they are very important ones. 

 

A Successful woman does these things....

#1. She makes time for herself // This one is non negotiable. A successful woman takes time to think on her own, without interruption. To reflect on her dreams and her goals. She takes time to fill herself up so that she can pour into her family or her job or whatever other commitments she has. A successful woman takes time for herself by doing something that reminds her that she is her own human and deserves some time to herself. 

#2. She sets goals for herself with plans to achieve them // Think of life like a journey. If you don't have a destination you are aimlessly roaming around. And if you don't have a roadmap to your destination, you will either get lost a million times or never get to your destination. Taking the time out to think about your goals is really important. These goals can be simple ones like committing to working out or maybe just waking up 15 minutes earlier in the mornings. But the bottom line is, make a goal + a realistic plan to achieve that goal. 

 #3. She has grace on herself // when you make a plan and it doesn't work, don't beat yourself up. A successful woman will try a different approach, ask for help or advice and accept correction from mentors. I don't know one successful person who didn't have failures. Allow your failures to rebuild you and strengthen you. 

#4. She is aware of others but she doesn't compare herself to others // this one is kind of important. Being aware of others is important. If you are a stay at home mom and you have a friend who has a clean house and well behaved kids - ask her to help you get to that point too. But don't compare yourself and feel less than. Because you aren't. You just haven't experienced the same lessons she has. Utilize others around you to push you in a forward direction. Not backwards. 

#5. She manages her time wisely // managing time wisely isn't always about to do lists. It's about what you are saying yes and no to. And why you are agreeing to things you shouldn't be. We all have 24 hours in a day. That's 1,440 minutes each day. Each minute matters and is either pushing you towards your goals, pushing you back or keeping you stagnant. If you complain that your house is a mess but just spent 2 hours scrolling Instagram....your time management skills aren't up to par and you need to adjust your priorities. Especially if you have any desire to succeed in whatever portion of life you choose.  

#6. She creates and allows changes in her life // Change is important.  Personally, I know that I need improvement in my life in some areas. And I am constantly seeking ways to change those faults. I am seeking wise counsel, I am reading, I am asking questions. I am constant seeking change and I am allowing areas in my life for that to take place. Change is good, my friend. Accept it with joy. 

#7. She is orderly and diligent // Orderly does not mean your house is spotless all the time. But it does mean that you are aware of your areas, and you keep things tidy. Why? The less energy you have to spend on "finding your wallet" means you can spend more energy on your goals and finding success in life. You can use your "minutes" wisely. 

#8. She smiles // This is one of my biggest challenges, honestly. I am wired negatively. I get stressed easy and it takes me a very long time to process situations (that are out of my control) before I have found a resolution or come to terms with it. BUT I have improved and a lot of that had to come with learning how to release control. Hey, ho. I'm getting there. But Smile. Its important. 

#9 She accepts correction & seeks improvement // If you asked anyone who knew me 10 years ago if I accepted correction well, they would laugh in your face. But here's the deal. As you get older, you do get wiser. In the sense that you learn who to trust.  A successful woman wants to learn why she is receiving correction, what motivates them to give correction and when she sees the fruit of that change - then she is basically begging for correction.  She sees that it is good. And she craves it. 

#10 She accepts responsibility for her actions // good and bad.  A Successful Woman looks at her decisions and learns from them. She doesn't blame her life on anyone else. She accepts that she is flawed and makes mistakes. But when she achieves, she is proud, content and thankful. 

 

How many of these habits come natural to you? How many are a challenge? 

Simplifying My Make Up Routine

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My big, very large, very full make up kit has been stashed away. But that left me to wonder what in the world a make up artist keeps in her own personal make up bag for every day wear. And this my friends is what it came down to. And I couldn't be happier to have a simple and quick routine for daily wear. Check out whats in my make up kit below! 

FOUNDATION // IT cosmetics CC Cream

CHEEK // Hoola Bronzer + MAC's Love Joy  

BROW // Elf brow kit in dark  

EYES // Mac's Paint as a base, Urban Decay Naked2 Basics, L'Oréal Liquid Liner (with a felt tip) 

LASHES // Huge by Stila. My all time favorite mascara.  

Not Shown // I do wear concealer every day as a highlighter under my eyes and if I have any problem areas. I use MAC pro longwear concealer in NC20.  

 

What are your favorite make up kit staples?? 

What is Time Management?

Being a working mom for the past decade has seriously given me so much hands on experience with productivity but more important LACK of productivity that comes with motherhood and "working from home". I think it takes a very certain kind of person to work from home and requires a lot of motivation. BUT, not only working moms need proper time management skills. Stay at home moms do as well. Well....everyone does. But that's a different day/post.  It doesn't matter if you "work" or if you don't. Being a mom IS work.  And there are so many tasks when it comes to running a household. Its exhausting and its draining. But it doesn't have to be. 

I like to look at time management less as a tool to "get more done" but more as a skill of prioritizing what you already have to do. Join me as we dig deeper into time management skills for the overwhelmed mom. 

 

To enroll in the course, please click the button below! 

A Season of Slow

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I just finished this book. I've never read a book slower, ever in my life. I am a natural speed reader, I blow through books quicker then I can keep up with. But this one was different. I read it slow. I savored it. I re-read chapters. I highlighted and underlined and folded down pages that I wanted to come back to. Shauna Niequist spoke every word I have been feeling this season of life. A season to slow down, a season to stay quiet, a season to stop the hustle and bustle, a season to stay in my Jammie's and rest more then I feel comfortable with. A season of uncomfortable, weird, silence. 

But beyond the silence, it's becoming a season to reconnect, dig back into Gods word and reconnect with my family. My work has pulled me in all directions, different states, different countries and all over the valley. But in the midst of the non stop hustle, I realized it wasn't passion that was driving me. And my work wasn't bringing me joy anymore. I was filling a need to prove myself. A need to show everyone that I'm not "just a mom", or a teen mom, or a single mom. I thought that I could show everyone how I could pull myself out of my "bad choices" and into a successful life. A life with no financial struggles, a life not dependent on "help" from others, a parent with it all together, an intentional mom (hoping it was the opposite of an irresponsible teenager as I once was). But guess what? That was exhausting. And it left me empty and wanting to hide so I didn't have to act all put together every time I was around someone. 

So, here I am, a retired hair and make up artist, who has almost 4 children and I'm not even 30 yet.  I love a schedule, I love being organized but I also love staying in my Jammie's all day and reading. I am an introvert, social settings give me anxiety, and I love staying at home. My wardrobe consists of mostly black and gray tones. And I like it that way. Neutral tones calm me. 

I announced sometime last year that I was retiring from weddings. Something God had been YELLING at me to do for years. But I wasn't listening. I thought I had to work and that I had to provide. But the truth is, I don't. Because He does. I quit my job without another lined up. I didn't even speak to my husband about it before I made the decision. I knew in my soul that I needed to stop.  I was unhappy, stressed, distant and miserable. I was overwhelmed. Each event was less joyful for me and more work then I ever imagined. So again, without any "future plans" or "future income", I said goodbye. 

With Baby No. 4 on the way, I am still not sure how I will bring income to our home. But I am finding a little bit of peace in that I know I can trust the Lord to provide. And my prayer is that my husband realizes that he doesn't need to stress either. Because we have never gone with out. And we just need to honor what has been given to us. His guidance will come, his provisions will come. And they wont be based off of our works, or our schedules, or my obsession with being an entrepreneur.  

So this book. It has put into words what I have felt for a long time. But never knew how to execute. Never knew that it was ok to feel all the things I am feeling. It helped me realized that I wasn't being lazy. Rest does not equate to laziness. But, that I have been craving rest, connection, intimacy and a slow calmness that hustling would never give me. 

I am thankful for people who write the words that are in this book. That are real, honest, truthful and bold. That pave the way for people who cant quite put into words how they are feeling so that they can make the necessary changes in their lives. 

For now, I will keep snuggling my kids, watching movies on repeat, enjoying my last pregnancy and stay in my jammies and I will blog for whoever wants to read. 

 

You can find her book here...https://www.amazon.com/Present-Over-Perfect-Leaving-Frantic/dp/0310342996/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1482442004&sr=8-1&keywords=present+over+perfect

 

Traveling with kids to the U.K.

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This is our 3rd time traveling to the U.K. And to be honest, it's always been so easy. The older kids have always traveled well. The flight is 10 hours, which most people gasp when they hear that. But it's a night flight direct from Phoenix to London so we basically sleep the whole time. But this trip was slightly different. It definitely was not easy. It was Mia's first time flying to the U.K. And she is the most restless child I know. She doesn't sit still and is the lightest sleeper. Add in a fever for 5 days, and it was a bit if a disaster. But we survived. Here are a few things to remember when traveling with kids... 

 

#1. Don't wait to travel til they are older. Get them used to it as early as possible. All of my kids have been traveling since they were a few weeks old. From all over the states, to Mexico to London and Spain. I love that we can go to a different country and the kids are open to trying new foods and they sincerely enjoy the different cultures. 

 

#2 Travel Light. Unless you are traveling on a safari to Africa, bring the basic necessities. There will be stores all around. And babies do survive all over the world. On this trip, we went to the pharmacy a few times, needed diapers, tights etc. and we just got them whenever we were. We even had to see a doctor for Mia. 

 

#3 Most places are pretty child friendly. Any pub or restaurant we went in always made sure we had what we needed, made accommodations for the kids, changes to the menu and made sure Mia had warm milk for the road. 

 

#4 When traveling to a different time zone, do not look at what time it is back home. You will only confuse your body and mind that much more. When we come to the U.K., we don't look at what time it is back in PHX. Whatever time the clock says in the U.K., is what time it is. You will adjust quicker. And when you are out all day, and it's time to go to sleep, you will be tired for sure. Especially with kids! 

 

 

Jaime Lately // Do I Hear Crickets??

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So its been a few weeks since I have blogged. So I thought I would give an update, on life.

October is my crazy month. Always. It's like everyone in Phoenix has high hopes that the temps will drop, we can plan a bunch of events and we can magically go outside without being mostly naked and maybe wear a sweater. Only to be disappointed each October that its still in the high 90's.  It's hot and I am annoyed by it. #CanYouTell? So I have been on long days of production shoots, weddings and with my clients that fly in seasonally.  I am so tired. And the kids feel it for sure. And so does my messy house. But I have blocked out the rest of this month, so no more events on site. Time to rest up, catch up and clean up. I am really looking forward to this being my last crazy October, honestly. As much as I love my clients, I need time to rest. I've been going at this for 12 years and its just too much. 

I have started some really new, crazy, cool things too, but I cant share just yet. But they require a little less on site commitment then Hair & Make Up does. 

As for our little tribe, the babies caught a tummy bug this past week, so that was gross. Mia bumped her head and had to take her in. But she's ok. And this mommy and daddy are just wrecked. We are needing some serious time together away from the kiddos. 

We head out for London in 3 weeks, and we cannot wait. I need some cooler temps, some actual weather and some nice people. I cannot wait to grocery shop, eat everywhere and spend time with family over there. Literally counting down the days. Speaking of, who wants to follow along on our trip? I will probably do some videos and hopefully some posts for you all. 

Anyway, thanks for tuning in. And some good content will be coming soon. Once I rest up a bit.